Friday, October 23, 2009

Text and the single girl

Now you know I love the ladies. But something has begun to gnaw at me recently - an impression that was re-inforced last night at the Ballet, where my partner and I had to deal with two college-age girls texting during the performance.

So here goes nothing - why is it that when there's a really obnoxious infringement of theatre etiquette with cell phones, the perpetrator always seems to be female? What is UP with that? Sure, guys' cell phones do ring in theatres - that incidence may be roughly 50/50. But when it comes to actually answering the phone, or even making a call, the perp, in my experience, is always a woman or a girl.

This impression, of course, is hardly of statistical significance - the sample size is under a dozen incidents. Yet they're 100% female - oddly suggestive, wouldn't you say? I suppose some pop psychologist would explain that women are somehow more social, desire more connection, the dudes just don't have any friends, etc., etc., blah blah blah. To which I would answer - ladies, the connection you seek is in the theatre. That is where the "community" exists - not online in some virtual clique of avatars and anonymous commenters, or bff's with OCD. And "community" requires attention and respect. When you're in a community, you owe other people something. Even if it's only your silence.

1 comment:

  1. We're all going pop-psych on a very small data sample, so this is my shallow interpretation in that vein.

    Women and girls are socialized to be people-pleasers, to be "nice" (yes, generalization, but aren't some of the current self-help books about learning to get over that?). If your phone rings, or someone texts you, it's rude not to answer, and we mustn't be rude. (Never mind the greater rudeness you're committing to everyone around you.)

    Or maybe I'm full of it.

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